Weekly Wins 32: Emotion Coaching for Kids (& some adults!!): Building Emotional Intelligence

In the busy-ness of today's world, helping children develop emotional intelligence is crucial. Even developing emotional intelligence as an ADULT, is crucial. Emotion coaching is, in my humble opinion, an essential technique that parents can use to guide their children through their emotional experiences, helping them understand and manage their feelings effectively. This blog post explores the concept of emotion coaching and provides practical steps for parents to implement it in their daily interactions with their children.

What is Emotion Coaching?

Emotion coaching involves recognising your child’s emotions, understanding the underlying causes, and guiding them through the process of dealing with those emotions constructively. This approach helps children develop self-awareness, empathy, and better coping skills.

Why is Emotional Intelligence Important?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognise, understand, and manage our own emotions while also being able to recognise and influence the emotions of others. High Emotional Intelligence is linked to better relationships, improved academic performance, and enhanced mental health. For children, developing these skills early on sets a strong foundation for future success and well-being. I have been doing emotion coaching with my children since they were 1. I can whole heartedly say this has been a GAME changer for our family, and our connections to our kiddos.

Steps to Implement Emotion Coaching

1. Be Aware of Emotions:
Pay attention to your child’s emotional cues.

2. Connect with Your Child:
Create a safe space for your child to express their emotions.

3. Listen Actively:
When your child talks about their feelings, listen without interrupting or judging.

4. Label Emotions:
Help your child identify and label their emotions.

5. Set Limits and Problem-Solve:
While it’s important to validate emotions, it’s also essential to set boundaries on behaviours.

6. Model Emotional Intelligence:
Children learn a lot by observing their parents.

7. Encourage Self-Reflection:
As your child grows, encourage them to reflect on their emotions and actions.

Practical Tips for Everyday Situations

- Morning Routine:
Use morning routines as an opportunity to check in with your child’s emotional state. Ask them how they’re feeling about the day ahead and discuss any concerns they might have.

- After School:
When your child comes home from school, create a ritual of discussing their day. Ask about the highs and lows and listen to their experiences without immediate judgment or solutions.

- Bedtime:
Bedtime is an excellent time for reflection. Spend a few minutes talking about the day’s events and emotions. This helps your child process their feelings and go to bed with a clear mind.

My son recently was having trouble processing a situation. He has wanted to do an activity with his dad, but time had gotten away from everyone and we had to be at soccer training. He was devastated to say the least, and went to worst case scenario, which was I don’t want to do soccer anymore and I hate all my brothers. Literally what he said. Through spending time with him going and emotion coaching him, yes it took longer, BUT the growth in my little man was well worth it. Not only did this improve his immediate well-being, but it also equipped him with essential skills for future success in personal and professional relationships. Sure, he will have to practice this skill again and again, but you know what, he ended up going to soccer with a smile on his face – win win in my books!