Weekly Wins 34: Transitions and Changes: Tips for Managing Transitions Such as Moving, Changing Schools, or New Routines

Transitions and changes can be particularly challenging for children (& adults) with ADHD and autism. These moments of potential uncertainty can bring nerves, excitement, and anxiety, making it essential for parents to have effective strategies in place. Whether it’s moving to a new home, starting at a different school, or adjusting to new routines, or simply heading back to school after holidays(!) preparing your child for these changes can make a significant difference in their ability to adapt and thrive. Here are some practical tips to help your child navigate transitions smoothly.

1. Prepare in Advance:
Provide ample notice about upcoming changes. Use social stories, visual schedules, and discussions to help your child understand what to expect. Have the discussions when children (and adults) aren’t tired as your fuse (and theirs) will be limited and patience short!

2. Create a Transition Plan:
Develop a detailed plan that includes steps for the transition. Break down the process into manageable parts and check off each step as it is completed. This transition plan might include preparing clothes the night before, even during school holidays so that the routine is set before the clothes change to uniforms.

3. Maintain Consistency:
Try to keep as many routines and familiar items in place as possible during transitions. Consistency provides a sense of stability and security. Don’t change everything at once. Change one thing, ensure it works and ‘sticks’ before changing another. Build incrementally on the routines and familiarity.

4. Visit New Places Early:
If changing schools or moving, visit the new location several times before the transition. Familiarising your child with the new environment can reduce anxiety. Even if you aren’t changing schools, during the latter part of the school holidays as you pass your school you could have conversations about returning: what they are looking forward to, what they aren’t looking forward to. Both are opportunities for further discussion.

5. Involve Your Child:
Allow your child to participate in the transition process. For example, let them choose new school supplies or decorations for their new room. Ask for their input on what will help them get ready in the mornings, or where they should store their lunch bag / school supplies. Sometimes they have brilliant ideas that us boring adults didn’t even think of! Give them the opportunity.

6. Provide Emotional Support:
Acknowledge your child’s feelings and offer reassurance. Validate their concerns and provide positive reinforcement for handling the transition well. Don’t say “It’ll be fine!” Don’t say “Oh don’t worry about that!” Because sometimes, it isn’t fine, and they do worry; don’t dismiss it, discuss it.

7. Use Visual Supports:
Visual supports like calendars, countdowns, and visual schedules can help your child understand and anticipate changes. Just don’t overload it visually and have visual pollution!

Helping children manage transitions and changes requires patience, preparation, and consistent support. By preparing in advance, maintaining routines, and involving your child in the process, you can reduce their anxiety and help them adapt to new environments and situations. Remember to provide emotional support and use visual aids to make transitions more understandable and less daunting!